The legacy of a great wife from a grieving husband.

As the days of healing pass over me I want to share my thoughts with those who care.

Saturday, 26 February 2011

Miriam her brother's keeper...

I, by nature, am not a character that can spend a lot of time, with the latest technological communication tools, living in virtual realities and relationships......

But since Miriam has went ahead to be with our Savior my reality seems to be more in the past then in the present or the future, so I’ll try to venture into virtual realms.

On this platform I have decided to share some reflections and reminisce about the greatest woman I have ever known. 
As a starter I want to share how her departure about a month ago affected my life:  joy-Joy-JOy-JOY ~excruciating pain and sorrow then ~JOY-JOY-JOY-JOY ~pain again ~longing... ~JOY…… I think you get the picture.
It feels like I’m living in a dream with the morning very far away.
I just don’t know life without her.

21 years ago two very young souls (23-19) joined together and through the years literally became one.
I truly agree with our maker when he declared “It is not good that the man should be alone…” especially since I have tasted what it meant to have a Godly companion for all my adult life.
Now, even though I am still surrounded with the most loving children, faithful friends and beautiful family members that truly bring blessing and consolation to my life, still doesn’t compare with what Miriam’s presence meant regardless of the circumstances. Parents, siblings, children and friends tend to comfort externally, but the intimate comfort that comes from a committed loving spouse I believe cannot be surpassed by any other for an adult. And for me it is not there anymore.

She was a walking living grace for all of those that God brought into her path. In all my life I have not come across one person that she would have disliked or a person that would disliked her.
If she had a different view or even a strong disagreement with someone she managed to isolate the views or actions and embraced the person.
She believed that we are all undeserving of any good yet we are obligated to give nothing less to others around us. Life is hard as it is why we should do things to make it more difficult for anybody? She firmly believed that one of the worst thing a man or woman can do to others is to leave them in the wrong even if it was self inflicted and the consequences well deserved.
Rather she wanted to be God’s ambassador of peace comfort kindness etc.
When she became aware of any issues or problems, first with trembling brought them before God’s throne than in the gentlest way approached the person that was in need of reconciliation or correction. She never thought that she was fit for the job yet because of her convictions was willing to put her reputation on the line for the good of others.
I became the number one beneficiary of these blessing and I know for a fact that my faith and walk with our Lord is where it is because of her courage to confront the wrong in me many times not by nagging, usurping authority but by gently pointing to our Savior’s cross.

and many of you became the recipient of God’s love through her and I will praise her memory as long as I will live but I have to give credit where true credit is due...Miriam was a sinner like any one of us that walk on this earth. One day she met the Master (Jesus) who day by day by his Spirit through joy, sorrow, pleasure and pain transformed her into a master piece for His glory.  (Eph. 2:14)

So while my heart aches because of this great loss for the rest of my earthly life I worship at the feet of the One who so graciously gave and now has taken away. I know that Miriam is with Him according to His word (2Co 5:8) and I also believe that He is with me every day according to His word. (Heb 13:5)
Now I let you do the math to figure out how far Miriam is from me.
We both walk with our beloved Savior hand in hand… She is on the Gloryland side while I’m still in the Shadowland.

Here are the words to a song we sang many times together with the Almaguin Gospel Quartet not knowing how soon it became a reality for her.


Gloryland is not so far away 
And we’ll reach it some glad day 
Heaven’s home is now my final goal 
There to live while ages roll 


What a happy day ‘twill be 
What a glorious jubilee 
All of Heaven will be there 
What a meeting in the air 

Verse 2 

Wretched lives are oh so sad to see 
Those who live in misery 
But in Heaven, no more grief or pain 
Crippled lives are whole again 

Saved for His Glory, Kept by His Grace, Upheld by your prayers


  1. Dear Nandi,

    I am so thankful that you have chosen to start a blog. Praying for you and looking to our heavenly father to carry you through this stretch of your journey... You and Miriam ... Rebekah and Jessica and Jakob are an inspiration to me. I am so grateful to have you all in my life... The Lord bless and keep you close... shining his face on you and giving you peace each day... love and prayers.. Mary

  2. Dear Nandi
    I met Miriam and you through my friendship with the Martons in California. Being a close friend of Mary's I had an opportunity to be around Miriam in her teenage years and felt the very same things you write about her here. What a sincere sweet soul and example she remains to me. I consider this a gift and reminder of God of what He is able to do through us if we yield ourselves to him, to be an instrument of his grace and love.
    God bless you and your family in this time and thank you for sharing from your heart.